I know everyone who reads my work can understand what I’m talking about when I say that we often tell others how we are truly feeling without saying it. We hide behind phrases like, “I’m okay”, “I’m fine” or “I’m just not feeling good, but I’ll be okay.” Why do you think this is so? [...]
Enjoy the beauty around you, after all, you only get one life.
Who and What are Child Alters?
We all must make decisions in life. Do we do it in freedom or pain?
Have you ever wanted to know just of what a "repressed" memory is and how it is formed?
An important work by Dr. Bessell van der Kulk
I have risen like a Phoenix from the flames that made me who I am. This is my personal story.
Therapists listen and help, but what about THEIR mental health?
I write a blog about life and trauma, why?
I’ve spent a lot of time trapped in my own morass of emotions. True, the traumatic things that happened in my childhood first put me in the quagmire of self-pity and fear I have lived in, but later in life I chose of my own volition to remain there. As an adult, I found myself [...]
I watched a video today that was in awe. It covers so many topics! Change is inevitable. If you keep doing the same thing over-and-over again expecting a different result, you’ll never experience success! Fear of the unknown can paralyze you! Facing your fears and doing what you are afraid of anyway feel really freaking [...]
This piece is about dwelling on what happened to we survivors in our pasts. It is not intended to belittle anyone’s traumatic pasts, nor is it intended to say that one should not look at their pasts with open eyes and live there for a time. It is intended to help other survivors see that [...]
Trigger Warning: The following article is full of references to abuse issues and mentions things that may be triggering to some. I do not and will not write specifics of abuse on my blog, but the emotions that even talking briefly about these issues can be upsetting. Before I begin this piece let me first [...]
Shirley J. Davis Tears are nature’s release valve for the human soul. When we cry, we take our frustrations, fears and grief and allow them to vent so that our minds can reset. If you grew up like I did, in an abusive and traumatic family situation, you may have been afraid to weep. As [...]
Shirley J. Davis The circumstances surrounding the diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder make for some very lonely times for the person who learns the live with the condition. Often the family members of the diagnosed feel they are being attacked just because the person has sought the help of a professional to help them get [...]