Trauma and the Brain

An important work by Dr. Bessell van der Kulk

Rising from the Flames: My Story

I have risen like a Phoenix from the flames that made me who I am. This is my personal story.

Therapists, The Forgotten Victims of Trauma

Therapists listen and help, but what about THEIR mental health?

Why Do I Write About Dissociative Identity Disorder and Trauma?

I write a blog about life and trauma, why?

Escaping from the Cage of Childhood Trauma

I’ve spent a lot of time trapped in my own morass of emotions. True, the traumatic things that happened in my childhood first put me in the quagmire of self-pity and fear I have lived in, but later in life I chose of my own volition to remain there. As an adult, I found myself [...]

A Video With a Whopper of a Message!!

I watched a video today that was in awe. It covers so many topics! Change is inevitable. If you keep doing the same thing over-and-over again expecting a different result, you’ll never experience success! Fear of the unknown can paralyze you! Facing your fears and doing what you are afraid of anyway feel really freaking [...]

The Hazards of Living in the Past

This piece is about dwelling on what happened to we survivors in our pasts. It is not intended to belittle anyone’s traumatic pasts, nor is it intended to say that one should not look at their pasts with open eyes and live there for a time. It is intended to help other survivors see that [...]

The Lasting Effects of Broken Trust

Trigger Warning: The following article is full of references to abuse issues and mentions things that may be triggering to some. I do not and will not write specifics of abuse on my blog, but the emotions that even talking briefly about these issues can be upsetting. Before I begin this piece let me first [...]

The Cleansing Power of Tears

Shirley J. Davis Tears are nature’s release valve for the human soul. When we cry, we take our frustrations, fears and grief and allow them to vent so that our minds can reset. If you grew up like I did, in an abusive and traumatic family situation, you may have been afraid to weep. As [...]

The Rare Case of a Supportive Family Member

Shirley J. Davis The circumstances surrounding the diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder make for some very lonely times for the person who learns the live with the condition. Often the family members of the diagnosed feel they are being attacked just because the person has sought the help of a professional to help them get [...]

Sometimes We All Need A Special Friend

Shirley J. Davis Living with any type of chronic illness, be it physical or emotional, is extremely difficult. Living with the effects of a mixture of both is not only highly traumatic, but can be very dangerous. Such is the case for a friend of mine by the name of Jill Sparks. I met Jill [...]

Misophonia Means Living Without Diagnosis

In my blog, I have featured many articles about Dissociative Identity Disorder because it is a diagnosis I have intimate knowledge about. However, DID isn't the only diagnosis I wish to speak about here, as the stigma and heartbreaking trauma brought on by many diagnoses must be spoken of so that research can be encouraged. [...]

And Now For Something Completely Different!

Shirley J. Davis I have been posting some pretty heavy things lately, and I decided to write something much more light. So, I went through and found some of my favorite jokes. While mental health issues are definitely not funny, sometimes laughter helps to ease the stress of recovery. I am not all business, and [...]

The Conflicting Emotions of an Abused Child

Shirley J. Davis In my travels down the road less taken, I’ve had to deal with emotions that I denied as a child. I’ve not done so because I wanted to, they were just been so overwhelming that I chose unconsciously to hide from them. One of the worse emotions I think I had to [...]

An Invitation for a Free Book on Dissociative Identity Disorder Just for You!

I have decided to offer my book The Tears Will Cease: Recovery from Dissociative Identity Disorder for free through my blog. I authored The Tears Will Cease with a good friend and co-authored, Jessica J. Baker, after I realized through doing an internet search, that there are a lot of books out there about DID, [...]