The Hazards of Living in the Past

This piece is about dwelling on what happened to we survivors in our pasts. It is not intended to belittle anyone’s traumatic pasts, nor is it intended to say that one should not look at their pasts with open eyes and live there for a time. It is intended to help other survivors see that [...]

The Lasting Effects of Broken Trust

Trigger Warning: The following article is full of references to abuse issues and mentions things that may be triggering to some. I do not and will not write specifics of abuse on my blog, but the emotions that even talking briefly about these issues can be upsetting. Before I begin this piece let me first [...]

The Cleansing Power of Tears

Shirley J. Davis Tears are nature’s release valve for the human soul. When we cry, we take our frustrations, fears and grief and allow them to vent so that our minds can reset. If you grew up like I did, in an abusive and traumatic family situation, you may have been afraid to weep. As [...]

The Rare Case of a Supportive Family Member

Shirley J. Davis The circumstances surrounding the diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder make for some very lonely times for the person who learns the live with the condition. Often the family members of the diagnosed feel they are being attacked just because the person has sought the help of a professional to help them get [...]

Sometimes We All Need A Special Friend

Shirley J. Davis Living with any type of chronic illness, be it physical or emotional, is extremely difficult. Living with the effects of a mixture of both is not only highly traumatic, but can be very dangerous. Such is the case for a friend of mine by the name of Jill Sparks. I met Jill [...]

Misophonia Means Living Without Diagnosis

In my blog, I have featured many articles about Dissociative Identity Disorder because it is a diagnosis I have intimate knowledge about. However, DID isn't the only diagnosis I wish to speak about here, as the stigma and heartbreaking trauma brought on by many diagnoses must be spoken of so that research can be encouraged. [...]

And Now For Something Completely Different!

Shirley J. Davis I have been posting some pretty heavy things lately, and I decided to write something much more light. So, I went through and found some of my favorite jokes. While mental health issues are definitely not funny, sometimes laughter helps to ease the stress of recovery. I am not all business, and [...]

The Conflicting Emotions of an Abused Child

Shirley J. Davis In my travels down the road less taken, I’ve had to deal with emotions that I denied as a child. I’ve not done so because I wanted to, they were just been so overwhelming that I chose unconsciously to hide from them. One of the worse emotions I think I had to [...]

An Invitation for a Free Book on Dissociative Identity Disorder Just for You!

I have decided to offer my book The Tears Will Cease: Recovery from Dissociative Identity Disorder for free through my blog. I authored The Tears Will Cease with a good friend and co-authored, Jessica J. Baker, after I realized through doing an internet search, that there are a lot of books out there about DID, [...]

2017 Trauma & Dissociation Conference

The annual Trauma and Dissociation Conference is a wonderful experience for anyone who lives with a dissociative disorder. I went a few years ago, and it was a life changing event for me. I felt like I was finally home. I learned a great deal from the speakers, and made life long friends. It is [...]

The Trauma of Losing a Therapist

Shirley J. Davis Recovery from a severe mental condition such as Dissociative Identity Disorder is not easy. It takes many years of psychotherapy, patience and a lot of guts. I know, because I have spent the past 27 years doing just that. I was extremely fortunate to have met and worked with a wonderful Psychologist [...]

The Loneliness and Grief of a Traumatized Child

Shirley J. Davis Note from author: There are two sets of people to which this article is targeted; mental health professionals, and adult survivors of childhood trauma. There is an area of childhood trauma that few will write about, the emotions that young children feel when confronted with repeated and severe trauma. The trauma I [...]

The Rambling Thoughts of a Professional Insomniac

Shirley J. Davis I have spent almost my entire life unable to sleep unaided. Only if I take some type of medication will my thoughts and body slow down enough for me to sleep. Even as a very young child, I can remember lying awake at night listening to my family sleeping. Such is the [...]

Great Article from The Harvard Review of Psychiatry

Shirley J. Davis I found this wonderful article on the internet from the Harvard Review of Psychiatry. You can find this article and many more at the following Link. ARTICLE SITE   Harvard Review of Psychiatry Harv Rev Psychiatry. 2016 Jul; 24(4): 257–270. Published online 2016 Jul 8. doi:  10.1097/HRP.0000000000000100 PMCID: PMC4959824 Separating Fact from Fiction: An Empirical [...]

A Beautiful Piece of Amber

If you have ever wondered what it is like to live with a condition like Dissociative Identity Disorder, than I invite you to read this short story I wrote as a tribute to my therapist who retired in September 2016. One will immediately notice that the timing of the story does not flow, but jumps [...]