Red Alert: Addiction to the Chaos of Dysfunctional Self-Pity Will Keep You Stuck!

  There is a syndrome that I’ve become aware of in the past decade of my journey along the road less taken. This condition seems to be something that everyone who enters therapy to conquer the effects of childhood trauma that can slow down progress and stop it in its tracks if not alleviated. The [...]

I Refuse to be Undefined by Trauma

Just who is Shirley J. Davis?

Why Do I Write About Dissociative Identity Disorder and Trauma?

I write a blog about life and trauma, why?

Suffering During Christmas is a Choice

Why Be Miserable at Christmas? Why not choose something different?

Making Halloween Just a Day on the Calendar After SRA

I understand that many people who were harmed as children in ritual abuse, find Halloween a very hard day. Facing what happened on a day to day basis is hard enough, but a high day such as Halloween conjures memories that can be overwhelming. I Propose A New Way of Thinking I am proposing a [...]

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

It is 2017, and we as a nation still have a silent epidemic that we don't want to talk about. Domestic Violence. I can't tell you how sad it makes me to have to post this page. You would think with all our advancements, and all our knowledge, we would have moved past this horrendous [...]

When Your Locus is Out of Control

Locus of control is a state of mind where we place our belief in how the outcomes of our lives internally or externally. Looking for someone else to make us happy is external locus of control, and a recipe for disaster. Looking inward for control over our lives and destiny is preferable, but must be [...]

Life Isn’t Easy, Life Isn’t Fair

There are two basic facts about life that many people either were never taught or they try to say do not apply to themselves: Life isn’t easy and life isn’t fair. These two concepts are true for everyone, no matter your financial status, your ethnic background, your sexual orientation, or your religious affiliation. Yet, we [...]