Hurry to Hear My New Interview on TAASTAA with Hanna Kebedde

Gotta love that lab muppet! Anyway, I was interviewed on a podcast by Hanna Kebedde and it was broadcast last evening. She was gracious enough to share the link to share with all of you! So, tune in and sit down for an indepth interview of me talking about what I know about dissociative identity [...]

Need a Lift Today? Watch This Video

I found the following video on YouTube and it made me smile. I hope it brings a grin to your face too. I know some days are hard, believe me, I have them too. But we can encourage one another and that helps ease the way. Enjoy the video. Shirley  

A Post of Inspirational Sayings

LIke the above picture, where there is rain there is beauty. In our tears we find strength and I wanted to share some of mine with you today. Not tears necessarily, but my strength. That's why I decided to make a page exclusively full of inspirational quotes and beautiful pictures. There will be a few [...]

Ever Year My Birthday is a Miracle

On September 4, 1980, I made a pact that could have cost me my life. I decided that if I didn’t see any progress in my life and still felt horrible, I’d die by suicide on September 4, 1990. You see, that is my birthday. My Life Was Messy  I was so sick inside from [...]

Family-To-Family Classes Through NAMI

I am a member of the National Alliance on Mental Illness, or as it is commonly called NAMI. This group is a grassroots organization dedicated to helping those who live with mental health conditions and their families. Their secondary goal is to end the stigma that often accompanies a mental health diagnosis. I belong to [...]

Division of Mental Health Regions 3 & 4 Annual Consumer’s Conference

I wanted to make all who live in Illinois aware that I'll be speaking at the conference listed below. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask. This year it is being held in our state's capital Springfield and our topic is Roadmap to Recovery. We will be learning about the different paths [...]

Recovery Is…

There are as many definitions to the word "recovery" as there are people who are attempting to reach it. We who were brutally traumatized in childhood aren't really in "recovery" as we didn't start in life whole, rather we are attempting to make our lives better while living with the effects of having been harmed [...]

Attachment to the Perpetrator

In my research that I have been doing for my book on attachment disorders, I was reminded of a subject I believe I have yet to tackle here on this site. Attachment to the perpetrator sounds like a disorder on its own, but it is the natural consequence of children who are being reared by [...]

Dry Wells

Being open to other people about the severe abuse I suffered as a child has been very challenging.  At first, I wore a sign on my forehead that said, “incest” and when I shook hands with someone I would announce, “Hi, my name is Shirley and I’m a survivor of severe childhood trauma.” I am [...]

If You Live in the United States and Need Help, Please Call

The tragedy of domestic violence takes place every day in many households in the United States and around the world. It isn't just the poor or the rich who suffer, it is also men and women, gay and straight, college professors and dropouts who find themselves helpless. No one is immune from finding themselves in [...]

Emotional Equations

If you are like me, you love equations and logic. Well, check this out. I found it on twitter (I think), and had to share. Don't forget to check out the Emotional Equations author, Chip Conley!  

Finding Beauty After Trauma

Enjoy the beauty around you, after all, you only get one life.

No One Tells the Sun When to Shine, It Simply Does

Living With Dissociative Identity Disorder Can Be Very Hard.

Surviving Treatment

  I have often told people that surviving the treatment for dissociative identity disorder was as hard as surviving the trauma that caused it. I thought I’d write a piece explaining what I mean by this statement.   Entering the Flames of Hell   Somewhere in late 1989, when I was twenty-nine years old, I [...]

A Message of Hope

Once in a while there is a story that tugs at my heart and I must respond by writing about it. Below is such a story. Professor Stephen Hawking died recently and this past week a ceremony celebrating his life was held. His voice of reason and discovery will be horribly missed by the world. [...]