I Refuse to be Undefined by Trauma

Just who is Shirley J. Davis?

Life is Fatal

Death is inevitable, so why not live?

Embarking on a New Adventure

Leaving the past in the past takes courage. Walking into the future does too.

The Healing Power of Thankfulness

We can use our past to propel us into a bright future. It all begins with gratitude.

The Search for Happiness

We humans spend our lives looking for happiness on the other side of the fence, what if is right in front of us and we won't see it?

Some Words of Wisdom from Me to Others Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Living with DID can be difficult, but there are ways to make it easier. I offer some pearls of wisdom to those who will listen.

Wonderful Video About Life

Life. What can we say we have learned? Watch this video as Anne Lamott challenges us all to consider this question.

It Hasn’t Been Wasted Time

Our decisions that we make in our lives can make or break us. However, we shouldn't spend our time worrying about time wasted.

Taking Responsibility for Our Actions: Grasping Some of the Hardest Concepts in Life

Taking responsibility for our lives isn't easy, but it is necessary to live a happy and well-adjusted life.

Facing Triggers and Fear Head-On

Triggers and the fear they bring can be overcome, but only if one faces them head-on.

Three Basic Choices All Humans Face in Life

We all have three basic choices in life, give up, give in, or give it all you've got.

It Isn’t Over, Until It’s Over

I've spent several of the past few years contemplating my life and the future, and I've come to one very important conclusion. Life isn't over, until it's over. While this simple phrase may not sound like much to some, to we who have survived severe trauma in childhood, it is a revelation. We were held [...]

In Case You Missed It!

Below you'll find a picture of the key concepts learned from the Who Moved My Cheese Video I posted the other day. What lessons!! If you haven't watched it yet, you really should take a few minutes and do so. It is marvelous!    

Escaping from the Cage of Childhood Trauma

I’ve spent a lot of time trapped in my own morass of emotions. True, the traumatic things that happened in my childhood first put me in the quagmire of self-pity and fear I have lived in, but later in life I chose of my own volition to remain there. As an adult, I found myself [...]

A Video With a Whopper of a Message!!

I watched a video today that was in awe. It covers so many topics! Change is inevitable. If you keep doing the same thing over-and-over again expecting a different result, you’ll never experience success! Fear of the unknown can paralyze you! Facing your fears and doing what you are afraid of anyway feel really freaking [...]