What We Want vs. What We Need to Make Us Grow and Be Happy

One of the things I know in my life I have been confused about is the difference between what is a want and a need. I have caught myself saying I “need” this or that when I did not. They were wants, not needs. To be honest with all of you I started to write [...]

A New Post That’s Not New-Locus of Control

I posted this over a year ago and thought I'd review, fix and rerelease it to you. Many of you were not following me then, but the message is powerful and poignant. Enjoy. Shirley Locus of control is a state of mind where we place our belief in how the outcomes of our lives happen [...]

Ever Year My Birthday is a Miracle

On September 4, 1980, I made a pact that could have cost me my life. I decided that if I didn’t see any progress in my life and still felt horrible, I’d die by suicide on September 4, 1990. You see, that is my birthday. My Life Was Messy  I was so sick inside from [...]

Just Like You, I’m Only Human

If you have been watching for and reading my blog recently I'm sure you have noticed I have been struggling. I've written posts that are full of real emotion and not holding back. I think this honest is crucial to help others who live with the effects of any kind of traumatic experience(s). You see, [...]

I Am Strong but Not Unbreakable

I Am Strong but Not Unbreakable Shirley J. Davis People see my writing And hear my call to life Speaking from experiences To tell how I overcame hell But don’t equate strength with unbreakable I’m just as fragile as anyone else Vulnerable and fragile sometimes I have limits to my endurance Living sometimes seems too [...]

Names on a Gravestone

I get contemplative while washing dishes. I’m not sure why I just always have. Today while washing the noodles off my little nephew’s bowl and spoon from lunch, I stood with my hands in the warm soapy and water thinking. My mind wondered as it often does to mortality and how all humans have a [...]

A Nowhere Man?

I’ve written on this blog about the road less taken many times before. However, there are so many aspects and thoughts I have concerning it, I had to write another post. Some consider the somewhere they are reaching for to be heaven, some nirvana, some consider it blinking into nothingness. That’s not what I’m really [...]

Whose Getting Old? Me, That’s Who

Tomorrow evening I am attending the 40th anniversary of my high school graduating class. This will be the first time I have been in the presence of most of the people I went to school with for that length of time. I  Never Belonged--Anywhere I wish I could say I was super excited or thrilled [...]

Once Again, Life Isn’t Easy, Life Isn’t Fair

  I wrote this article several months ago. I received a huge response in ways I had not anticipated. There were those who were interested and glad to hear what I had to say. But, there were those who grew extremely angry with me for what I said. So, being the sucker for punishment that [...]

Learning to Live with DID

First, let me begin this post with an apology.   Several months ago, I stated I was going to begin a series of posts about the ten stages involved with learning to live with the effects dissociative identity disorder. However, life got in the way and I didn’t carry through with that promise.   Well, [...]

Welcome to the Real World, Shirley Jean Davis

Everyone has bad times, even Shirley Jean Davis.

Time for Inspiration

We all need inspiration sometime. I am no exception.

Child Alters

Who and What are Child Alters?