The Skewed Self-Image Trap

What do you think of when I say the term “self-image?” For those who are not living with the diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder, it means the way they look in the mirror or how they see themselves inside. However, for those of us living with the diagnosis of DID, things are quite different. For [...]

Help Others to Help Yourself

The Picture Above Has Two Meanings First Meaning: When we encounter children we must remember to help them all we can to avoid or escape highly traumatic situations. If they are being abused or bullied, we need to do whatever is necessary to make sure they do not return to that situation. If they are [...]

Your Motivation for Today: Life Keeps Moving

Hi everyone. Time for a little pep talk and motivation. Do you ever feel like life has been and always will be one huge uphill climb? If so, me too. Some days it feels like I climb and climb but never reach where I want to go. I even some days feel I'm wasting my [...]

Motivation for Your Valentine’s Day

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha I love the above quote by Buddha. [...]

Your Motivation for February 4, 2019

Hello and welcome to Monday. Anxiety is definitely a normal part of being human. Anxiety serves us in helping us to avoid danger and respond by either running away, freezing to avoid detection, or fight our way out of the situation. However, what happens when anxiety overwhelms our lives and we can't cope? I think [...]

The Power of Fusion

Fusion doesn't mean becoming a singleton or losing parts of yourself, rather it means growing into a fuctional whole.

An Alternate Explanation of Integration

Integration is the most controversial and debated topic in the DID community? Why?

A New Post That’s Not New-Locus of Control

I posted this over a year ago and thought I'd review, fix and rerelease it to you. Many of you were not following me then, but the message is powerful and poignant. Enjoy. Shirley Locus of control is a state of mind where we place our belief in how the outcomes of our lives happen [...]

Support Me on Patreon!

Hi everyone. I wanted to announce here that I am on Patreon. My reasoning is simple, I need to earn some money to keep my WordPress account up to date. By February 12th of next year, I will need to earn $200 to pay for my WordPress page. That may sound like a lot of [...]

The Walls Between Us

Living with dissociative identity disorder is very hard a majority of the time. The intrusive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can make our lives hell. To make matters worse, singletons (people who do not have the diagnosis of DID) don’t understand our plight. It’s not that people don’t care, they just find our disorder intriguing at [...]

I Am Strong but Not Unbreakable

I Am Strong but Not Unbreakable Shirley J. Davis People see my writing And hear my call to life Speaking from experiences To tell how I overcame hell But don’t equate strength with unbreakable I’m just as fragile as anyone else Vulnerable and fragile sometimes I have limits to my endurance Living sometimes seems too [...]

Attachment to the Perpetrator

In my research that I have been doing for my book on attachment disorders, I was reminded of a subject I believe I have yet to tackle here on this site. Attachment to the perpetrator sounds like a disorder on its own, but it is the natural consequence of children who are being reared by [...]

DID A Matter of Dissociation Over Insanity

  I have this video several years ago and posted it to YouTube. It was my first power point project and my first ever video. I was unaware of the copyright issues with music, and am very grateful to Enya for allowing me to keep her song with my video. She is a peach! I [...]

No One Tells the Sun When to Shine, It Simply Does

Living With Dissociative Identity Disorder Can Be Very Hard.

Surviving Treatment

  I have often told people that surviving the treatment for dissociative identity disorder was as hard as surviving the trauma that caused it. I thought I’d write a piece explaining what I mean by this statement.   Entering the Flames of Hell   Somewhere in late 1989, when I was twenty-nine years old, I [...]