Attachment to the Perpetrator

In my research that I have been doing for my book on attachment disorders, I was reminded of a subject I believe I have yet to tackle here on this site. Attachment to the perpetrator sounds like a disorder on its own, but it is the natural consequence of children who are being reared by [...]

Dry Wells

Being open to other people about the severe abuse I suffered as a child has been very challenging.  At first, I wore a sign on my forehead that said, “incest” and when I shook hands with someone I would announce, “Hi, my name is Shirley and I’m a survivor of severe childhood trauma.” I am [...]

If My Life Was a Movie

  I’ve been talking to people about my life story for many years now. Recently I have begun trying to find someone who would be interested in writing a book and then a screenplay about my experiences. I think the true story of a person who lives with dissociative identity disorder would make one hell [...]

Emotional Equations

If you are like me, you love equations and logic. Well, check this out. I found it on twitter (I think), and had to share. Don't forget to check out the Emotional Equations author, Chip Conley!  

The $64 Question

What Is It About Childhood Trauma that Causes DID? Today I’m going to touch on the subject, what it is that causes dissociative identity disorder? That, as you may have guessed by now, is a subject that has many dimensions ranging from attachment problems and a missed developmental stage to our bodies being flooded with [...]

DID A Matter of Dissociation Over Insanity

  I have this video several years ago and posted it to YouTube. It was my first power point project and my first ever video. I was unaware of the copyright issues with music, and am very grateful to Enya for allowing me to keep her song with my video. She is a peach! I [...]

Between a Rock and a Hard Place

Many of us who live with a diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder have faced the conundrum of trying to find adequate mental health care. In this article I’m going to discuss the hard choices people like myself must make to find any kind of care at all in our current national mental health system.   [...]

Finding Beauty After Trauma

Enjoy the beauty around you, after all, you only get one life.

No One Tells the Sun When to Shine, It Simply Does

Living With Dissociative Identity Disorder Can Be Very Hard.

Surviving Treatment

  I have often told people that surviving the treatment for dissociative identity disorder was as hard as surviving the trauma that caused it. I thought I’d write a piece explaining what I mean by this statement.   Entering the Flames of Hell   Somewhere in late 1989, when I was twenty-nine years old, I [...]

To All My Fellow Warriors Out There Today

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Being an Invisible Child

I am facing my forty-year graduating class anniversary dinner in August. Such an event usually causes people to look forward to speaking with and seeing the people with which you went to school.   For me the prospect brings back memories and emotions that are not lovely.   I can remember moving to Illinois from [...]

Important Facts About Childhood Trauma

 

Once Again, Life Isn’t Easy, Life Isn’t Fair

  I wrote this article several months ago. I received a huge response in ways I had not anticipated. There were those who were interested and glad to hear what I had to say. But, there were those who grew extremely angry with me for what I said. So, being the sucker for punishment that [...]

I’m Learning to Take Responsibility

  This piece may trigger anger or even rage in some of my readers, because I am going to speak on the subject of who is responsible for the actions of a DID system.  I don't believe in pussy-footing around, so be forewarned. Your toes might get stepped on. My hope is that after you [...]