I Refuse to be Undefined by Trauma

Just who is Shirley J. Davis?

Rising from the Flames: My Story

I have risen like a Phoenix from the flames that made me who I am. This is my personal story.

Male Victims of Child Sexual Abuse

Men who were sexually abused as children, a helpful publication.

Why Do I Write About Dissociative Identity Disorder and Trauma?

I write a blog about life and trauma, why?

Life is Fatal

Death is inevitable, so why not live?

Embarking on a New Adventure

Leaving the past in the past takes courage. Walking into the future does too.

Who Will Speak for the Children?

***Trigger Warning*** For a highly emotionally charged post.

Some Words of Wisdom from Me to Others Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Living with DID can be difficult, but there are ways to make it easier. I offer some pearls of wisdom to those who will listen.

How Should We Celebrate Our Veteran Heroes

We should honor our veterans and their families, not just one day, but 365 days a year. We should honor them with not just our words, but with our everything.

Facing Triggers and Fear Head-On

Triggers and the fear they bring can be overcome, but only if one faces them head-on.

Making Halloween Just a Day on the Calendar After SRA

I understand that many people who were harmed as children in ritual abuse, find Halloween a very hard day. Facing what happened on a day to day basis is hard enough, but a high day such as Halloween conjures memories that can be overwhelming. I Propose A New Way of Thinking I am proposing a [...]

Three Basic Choices All Humans Face in Life

We all have three basic choices in life, give up, give in, or give it all you've got.

It Isn’t Over, Until It’s Over

I've spent several of the past few years contemplating my life and the future, and I've come to one very important conclusion. Life isn't over, until it's over. While this simple phrase may not sound like much to some, to we who have survived severe trauma in childhood, it is a revelation. We were held [...]

A Message to All Who Are Having a Hard Time Today

I of all people understand the deep hole of depression. I understand the feelings of being overwhelmed by one's thoughts, and the need to hide. I can also relate to feelings of wanting to self-destruct. These powerful emotions can make life miserable, and threaten our existence. My words to you today are simple. I care. [...]

I’m Going To Let My Guard Down

I rarely ever post online about what is going on in my private life. However, I'm making an exception today. I saw a video earlier of a woman who stated she was going to make a video series about living with Dissociative identity Disorder that wasn't going to be educational, nor sensational. She wanted to [...]