Names on a Gravestone

I get contemplative while washing dishes. I’m not sure why I just always have. Today while washing the noodles off my little nephew’s bowl and spoon from lunch, I stood with my hands in the warm soapy and water thinking. My mind wondered as it often does to mortality and how all humans have a [...]

A Nowhere Man?

I’ve written on this blog about the road less taken many times before. However, there are so many aspects and thoughts I have concerning it, I had to write another post. Some consider the somewhere they are reaching for to be heaven, some nirvana, some consider it blinking into nothingness. That’s not what I’m really [...]

The Sad Truth of Passive Suicidal Ideation and Behaviors

There is a type of suicide that people don’t talk about in the media or in support groups. It is often missed by clinicians and even close relatives aren’t aware of what is going on. It is called passive suicide, which is preceded by passive suicidal ideation. The Definition of Passive Suicidal Ideation Passive suicidal [...]

If You Live in the United States and Need Help, Please Call

The tragedy of domestic violence takes place every day in many households in the United States and around the world. It isn't just the poor or the rich who suffer, it is also men and women, gay and straight, college professors and dropouts who find themselves helpless. No one is immune from finding themselves in [...]

Change the Language to Change the Conversation–The Power of Speech

The words we use to describe ourselves have a huge impact on how we are treated. If we call ourselves by a term that means something negative, we will inevitably be treated in a negative fashion.   There are terms used to describe those of us who live with mental health conditions. However, those words, [...]

Being an Invisible Child

I am facing my forty-year graduating class anniversary dinner in August. Such an event usually causes people to look forward to speaking with and seeing the people with which you went to school.   For me the prospect brings back memories and emotions that are not lovely.   I can remember moving to Illinois from [...]

Once Again, Life Isn’t Easy, Life Isn’t Fair

  I wrote this article several months ago. I received a huge response in ways I had not anticipated. There were those who were interested and glad to hear what I had to say. But, there were those who grew extremely angry with me for what I said. So, being the sucker for punishment that [...]

I’m Learning to Take Responsibility

  This piece may trigger anger or even rage in some of my readers, because I am going to speak on the subject of who is responsible for the actions of a DID system.  I don't believe in pussy-footing around, so be forewarned. Your toes might get stepped on. My hope is that after you [...]

Grounding Techniques to Stay in Today

One of the hardest parts of having lived through severe childhood trauma is the ways it affects daily adult life. Flashbacks, depression, negativity and feelings of needing to escape are only a few of them.   How can we mitigate these life-altering side effects? Grounding techniques.   There are as many methods to grounding as [...]

Early Mental Health and Addictions Treatment Act

  My mother died of an opioid overdose in June, 2011. We will never know for certain whether she did it on purpose, or if she simply misjudged. All I know for sure is that she is dead.     I myself suffered from addiction to opioids from early adulthood until June, 2015. This July [...]

The Crime of Stigma Must End

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, a fact that most of you are already aware. The goal of having a month in honor of those who live with mental health challenges is to start a conversation about mental illness. Only if mental illness is brought out into the bright sunlight can it be recognized not [...]

The Reality of Living with Misophonia

Since I do not fully grasp the horrors of misphonia, I am quoting the following explanation I have taken from WebMD. WebMD: Misphonia   Do nails on a chalkboard make you cringe? Imagine if a sound could make you panic or fly into a rage.   This is the case with misophonia -- a strong dislike or hatred of specific [...]