Recovery Is…


There are as many definitions to the word “recovery” as there are people who are attempting to reach it. We who were brutally traumatized in childhood aren’t really in “recovery” as we didn’t start in life whole, rather we are attempting to make our lives better while living with the effects of having been harmed by those who should have been providing for and protecting us.

Since I am diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder, my definition of recovery has  been to achieve as much coawareness and coconsciousness as possible so that I can continue into life with the chaos that not having those two things bring burning at a low level. Notice, I did not say the chaos would COMPLETELY go away, I said it would burn at a low level, hopefully a controllable one. Since extreme stress can bring on switching, I cannot say that I will never, ever lose a large amount of time or act erratically ever again.

However, I CAN have a good life at peace with myself, which means being at peace with the alters in my system.

While reading the list what “recovery” means, I would like you to ask yourself the question…

“What does recovery mean to me?”

Leave your answers in the comment section below. Thanks Shirley

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8 thoughts on “Recovery Is…

  1. i get your blog.i am disabled .have m.e.long list health issues .as a child i was abused sexually
    nobody can recover from this..,people never see the every day effects ,my story of abuse is
    in a AUTHORS BOOK.i do a blog

    1. You can recover enough to live a happy life. It takes a lot of time, dedication and a good therapist, but it can be done.

  2. like you I want to lessen the chaos. I was to gain internal cooperation and communication. I want to have a good life and not just function in order to get through each day. xxx

    1. I have more peace now than I ever have, but after 30+ years of therapy I damn well better! LOL I know, the chaos of having so many opinions on the same subject, losing time, and doing things you don’t remember is nuts. It does get better. I didn’t say it goes totally away, but it does get better. Shirle

        1. Seventeen years in therapy. I understand that one. I was 28 when I was diagnosed and will be 58 in September. However, I wouldn’t trade my journey for anything now that I’m emerging from the other side. I know more about myself than most people ever will and I actually love me. How many people can say that. I don’t mean in a conceited way, of course, I mean that I respect and care deeply for me. That came from loving and accepting my alters. After all, they ARE me. I’m glad you are finding what I have, that things do get better. Shirley

          1. Wow, now that’s cool! There are very few Shirley’s around it would seem although there are actually five Shirley J. Davis’ in my area (according to the very large doctor clinic I go to anyway). Well, hello Shirley LOL

Thank you for commenting! Shirley

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