I Haven’t Forgotten You

Life has a funny way of biting us the butt sometimes. I mean, I had a nasty bout of seasonal affectiveness disorder that held me down for over a month. SAD affects millions of people living in the northern climate regions like I do. It brings on depression (duh), anxiety, and a sense of dread [...]

I Don’t Want to Feel Alone, but I Do

This post is going to be different. I'm not going to be brutally honest about how I have been feeling and it isn't pretty. I want to be honest with you so that you can see I do understand. I understand the struggles of living with dissociative identity disorder as much as anyone. Even more [...]

America Isn’t the Greatest Country in the World Anymore–But It Could Be

I've written previously about how I am dismayed and saddened by what is happening in my country. I once believed we were the best country to live in. We had freedom and seemed to be moving forward with equal rights for everyone. Not anymore. Now hate and despondency is the norm my country.  People are [...]

Dissociative Identity Disorder: A Sensational Diagnosis?

This morning I took a tour of the videos available on YouTube put out there by people about DID. What I found disturbed me. While some were honest videos from people in varying states of recovery, many were obviously created by people caught up in what they believe to be a sensational diagnosis.   Living [...]

I’m Deeply Saddened and Dismayed

I once believed like many others, that the United States was the Land of the Free. Now I am disheartened because my country has become the Land of the Fearful. Fascism is quickly becoming the religion of the U.S., and if it does not stop, if good people with good conscious do not end it, [...]

The New Edition of The Orchestra Analogy

I have posted the orchestra analogy before, but since I have new people who have begun to follow me, I thought I'd post it again. This version isn't the same as the one posted before. I have been thinking about it and have added more and simplified it. I think it now gives a clear [...]

Reaching Out With the Truth of Dissociative Identity Disorder

As many of my readers know, I take every opportunity I possibly can to spread the truth about DID so that the stigma will end. Well, the man I work for, Randeep Singh, has allowed me to write a post that talks about some of the aspects of DID and how it has affected my [...]

A Poem for a Good Friend

This poem is dedicated to my long-lost friend, Stephen (Michael) Gross. He was funny, witty, and most of all, a great friend. I miss him very much. You will never be forgotten, Mike. Shirley  

Trauma Informed Care

  Most of you, my readers, understand the definition of trauma having lived through more than enough as children. However, how many of you know what is meant by trauma-informed care? In this article, we are going to explore what trauma-informed care is and the different ways it can be incorporated into a therapeutic relationship [...]

I’m Still Here, Well Sort Of

Hi everyone. Its me your very tired blog writing friend. Well if I ever complained my life was boring, I lied. Things have been strange and stressful for me lately. I won't bore you with a breakdown of the craziness that life keeps throwing my way. You already know how much we who live with [...]

I Need Your Story to Publish

Hi, it’s Shirley  I wanted to send out invitations to all my friends telling you about an opportunity I have gotten involved with called PatientNextDoor. No, it’s not a get quick scheme, nothing like that. It’s a new blog.site and smartphone application.  I’m not selling anything either, so don’t worry, that’s not what this invitation is about. PatientNextDoor is [...]

Making the Choices of Successful Adults To Change Our Lives

If you are like me, and many of you are, you became aware very quickly after beginning therapy of how other people have influenced your life’s path. The abuse and hellish decisions to harm us made by others changed the course of who we could have been forever. However, how often have you sat down [...]

Hurry to Hear My New Interview on TAASTAA with Hanna Kebedde

Gotta love that lab muppet! Anyway, I was interviewed on a podcast by Hanna Kebedde and it was broadcast last evening. She was gracious enough to share the link to share with all of you! So, tune in and sit down for an indepth interview of me talking about what I know about dissociative identity [...]

What We Want vs. What We Need to Make Us Grow and Be Happy

One of the things I know in my life I have been confused about is the difference between what is a want and a need. I have caught myself saying I “need” this or that when I did not. They were wants, not needs. To be honest with all of you I started to write [...]

What the World Could Learn from This Brother

We live in such a barbaric time with people uncaring about others feelings, hopes and dreams. In the video below we find a baby with disabilities reaching out to help his brother who is in need. What a marvelous life lesson this is! May we all strive harder to imitate what this tiny baby did [...]