A Funny Page to Say, Thank You!

I wanted to do something special for you today, so I am giving you a funny page. This page is themed around (surprise!) baseball. I happen to love the game myself and have backed the Cubs since the 1980s. Enjoy! And thanks again for your patience while I regrouped. I feel much better!f Shirley First [...]

We are Vapors

Nearly all my life I have had the feeling that life is forcing me along. I sometimes get the distinct feeling of a rope that is attached to me and that life is pulling me along against my will. I think it began when I was a child and the forced motion has increased as [...]

I’m a Survivor, That’s What I Do

I’m a survivor, that’s what I do I did not give up then I do not give up now I will battle to my last breath Fighting long held lies with the truth I am scarred I am battle worn And I admit, I’m exhausted Yet, I keep fighting on I’ve been through deepest hell [...]

Research Backs Up the Truth: Parents Who Are Invalidating Harm Kids

I was reading my email this morning and came across an article that proved what I've said here about being invalidated in childhood.  In the article on Psychology Today    I found a piece backing up what we who were the victims of this kind of treatment have always known, it damaged us. Granted, the article [...]

When Fantasy is Your Only Friend

***Possibly Triggering Material*** Growing up in an abusive home, children often find they have nowhere to go and no place to turn. So, they turn to their imaginations to help them cope. I’m writing this post out of my own experiences with the pretend world I lived in as a kid. I’ll try not to [...]

Speaking Without Saying a Word

I know everyone who reads my work can understand what I’m talking about when I say that we often tell others how we are truly feeling without saying it. We hide behind phrases like, “I’m okay”, “I’m fine” or “I’m just not feeling good, but I’ll be okay.” Why do you think this is so? [...]

NAMI Illinois Annual Conference

While on the subject of conferences, I'll also be speaking at the annual NAMI Illinois conference!!! I'm very excited to be able to offer a speech to my fellow NAMI members on the topic of NAMI, THE BEST KEPT SECRET IN ILLINOIS. I'll be speaking on Saturday October 13th in the morning. However, don't just [...]

Division of Mental Health Regions 3 & 4 Annual Consumer’s Conference

I wanted to make all who live in Illinois aware that I'll be speaking at the conference listed below. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask. This year it is being held in our state's capital Springfield and our topic is Roadmap to Recovery. We will be learning about the different paths [...]

Replacing the Old Tapes with New

Every adult human has them. Those voices in the back of your consciousness silently telling you of your worth. The tapes are recorded by your parents, teachers, and friends and never be erased. If you are lucky, they tell you that you are lovely, intelligent and worthy of love. However, if you grew up in [...]

Still I Rise

Many who visit this site know the terror and humiliation that we who have been horribly traumatized as children feel then and now. When we were kids we had no power and were prisoners from birth. We did not know the peace that should be home, instead we tried desperately to be too small for [...]

The Sad Truth of Passive Suicidal Ideation and Behaviors

There is a type of suicide that people don’t talk about in the media or in support groups. It is often missed by clinicians and even close relatives aren’t aware of what is going on. It is called passive suicide, which is preceded by passive suicidal ideation. The Definition of Passive Suicidal Ideation Passive suicidal [...]

Recovery Is…

There are as many definitions to the word "recovery" as there are people who are attempting to reach it. We who were brutally traumatized in childhood aren't really in "recovery" as we didn't start in life whole, rather we are attempting to make our lives better while living with the effects of having been harmed [...]